Introducing Securely Her with Jessica Rix

I thought it would be fitting to use blog post #1 to introduce myself a little more, my reason for Securely Her, and my hope and goals for it. 

I grew up around some amazing women. I saw them as strong, hardworking, beautiful, and incredible human beings; however, I don't think they always saw themselves that way. I also grew up in a single mother home, that was not void of hardships and chaos; however, especially as an adult and now a mother, I can see just how many cycles my mother broke in her own time. She was the first person (and a woman!) to finish college in her family (she now has her doctorate degree and in upper leadership roles); she was a born leader, driven, and had a voice even when that was not encouraged. She spoke up and taught my brother and I to do the same; however, there might have been some moments when she wished I hadn't learned that skill so well :)  These amazing women sparked a passion in me. 

I can reflect on my childhood and see that very early on, I saw how important it was for women to see their worth, because it's incredibly common for women (especially mothers), to minimize their worth and abilities. I truly believe this has a ripple effect on everything they do that can grow into significant hurts, pain, and issues that limit their ability to be the person they want to be. Common ripple effects include how they talk to and see themselves; opportunities/dreams they want to reach for, but won't; relationships they want to fully be seen and invested in, but either give too much or too little; their ability to identify and voice their needs; putting themselves last; low self-esteem, comparison traps, critical talk towards themselves and others; continuing to repeat generational trauma and unhealthy cycles of behavior; fear of parenting the way they were parented so they live in shame or avoid having children - and the list could go on. This is why I created Securely Her, because I believe that when women work on and heal core inner hurts they have within themselves, they are able to to truly live life the way they want. When we let go of shame, insecurities, and learn to have a healthy relationship with ourselves and others, we are triggered less, we reach out for help and love, and receive it; we learn to identify what we want and how to get it, and we let go of unrealistic expectations. We don't continue unhealthy cycles, but we break them. We change our family tree and recognize we are in control of our life's happiness and joy, no one else. This doesn't mean we can control everything that happens to us, but it means we can control how we show up for life's hardships, trials, and victories. Because when we mute the hard stuff, we often don't know how to live fully present in the joyous moments too. 

I have a heart for women to really know how valuable and unique they are, so they can learn to love themselves and be loved. My hope is that Securely Her will offer community, resources, groups, individual sessions, and workshops tailored to these unique needs of women. I know that when I feel good about myself, I treat myself and others better, I reach out for more opportunities, and feel more aligned with the life I want to live. Also, when we feel secure in ourselves, it's easier for us to make space for others to be the best version of themselves as well - and why wouldn't we want that? All women deserve to feel their best, no matter what they came from or where they've been.

With all that, please, stick around and share so that we can all learn from one another and be encouraged by one another! Life is not short of hard times, so why not lean into the positive to spread confidence, love, and joy. Together we can do this. 

If you are interested or have topic ideas you'd like to work on specifically, please leave a comment or send me a message. I'd love to hear from you and get to know you! 

Wishing you love and confidence, 

Jessica Rix - Securely Her